Thursday, 9 April 2009

think first?

oh i'm so so not in the mood. a supposed-to-be good start of the day has been spoilt by someone whom i closely work with.

i tried to concentrate on my work but updating the marks didn't really help. what else to do?

  • i just need to talk to someone, so i texted aman.
  • i surf and i found that poster that led me to a searching of anger management.
  • now i'm reading a few tips.

so some of the Anger Management Tips:

  • Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper. (not that easy..)
  • Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets. (kalu kat ofis? have to do something MENTALLY exerting kah? ok i'm now surfing n blogging)
  • Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga. (i always do this..tapi ade limit jugak kan..kalu dah beyond the limit?)
  • Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person. (saya setuju..xleh pendam tau..baru kejap tdi saya sms aman..)
  • Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues. (betul2..tapi kalu dah marah sempat ke nk pikir2 ayat? silence i better but it can kill..huhu)
  • Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation. (huh..tanak tengok muka die skarang..)
  • Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions. (ok..this is good)
  • Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want. (this one pun bagus..)
  • Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression. (i can't do this alone..! surfing can help maybe..)

it's easy to read..but can i apply this? hopefully..bila dah marah kan..


Anggerek said...

u re right, easy to read but it's hard to implement that when you re in 100celcius temper.

Be cool dear...take care

plain_jane said...

my anger management is far worst i think. that's y i care less towards other or anything.. you know.. sort of self-defense and precaution.. ;p

once my anger bubble burst.. it will take a very long time to heal..

the worst part is it hurts me more than the other party :'(

Anggerek said...

jane, totally agree with u huhuhu

daniadanis said...

cik ann:
thank u so much..i felt much better and able to face and WORK with her again..

the worst part is it hurts us more than the other party..
and the hardest part is to protect ourselves from being hurt..

miss pumpkin (reen) said...

be it on road, I get really bad road rage. Sadly, I'm a little reserved with people whom I love when I get pissed off.

Somehow, when it involves work, I feel like doing exactly what they did, but that seems lame. & I may text her, telling what's not right. I guess, confronting might seems professional if we hv d guts to let them know d wrong deeds. ani.