lady's problem, maybe

my simple beautiful life..


read her previous entry '...only dead fish swim with the stream' over again. she's right. problem is a part of life. i once wondered if there's anyone living this beautiful world without problem and i envy those kind. but now i start to believe that anybody may have their own problem. small one, or big one. take a long time, or a short time. can be solved, or no way out. and above all, the most important is to know what the problem exactly is and find the way to get out of that. is it easy, human?

well, haha. i feel like crying now, and for the past few days actually. AND I DON'T KNOW IF I ACTUALLY HAVE A PROBLEM..kuangkuangkuang..well, maybe yes that i have problems. perhaps and hopefully small one :)

anyway, i sometimes question myself why people esp ladies tend to try solving or lessening the burden by doing something irrelevant. example? ok here:

Problem? torn between two,

• get a new car or;
  
• continue saving for a big event

Solution?

• go for a haircut

So irrelevant kan?


But yes, maybe it is just a small part of the problem solving; to reduce stress and console the mind to think right again.

think first?

oh i'm so so not in the mood. a supposed-to-be good start of the day has been spoilt by someone whom i closely work with.

i tried to concentrate on my work but updating the marks didn't really help. what else to do?

• i just need to talk to someone, so i texted aman.
  
• i surf and i found that poster that led me to a searching of anger management.
• now i'm reading a few tips.
  

so some of the Anger Management Tips:

• Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper. (not that easy..)
  

• Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets. (kalu kat ofis? have to do something MENTALLY exerting kah? ok i'm now surfing n blogging)
  

• Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga. (i always do this..tapi ade limit jugak kan..kalu dah beyond the limit?)
  

• Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person. (saya setuju..xleh pendam tau..baru kejap tdi saya sms aman..)
  

• Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues. (betul2..tapi kalu dah marah sempat ke nk pikir2 ayat? silence i better but it can kill..huhu)
  

• Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation. (huh..tanak tengok muka die skarang..)
  

• Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions. (ok..this is good)
  

• Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want. (this one pun bagus..)
  

• Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression. (i can't do this alone..! surfing can help maybe..)

it's easy to read..but can i apply this? hopefully..bila dah marah kan..