think first?

oh i'm so so not in the mood. a supposed-to-be good start of the day has been spoilt by someone whom i closely work with.

i tried to concentrate on my work but updating the marks didn't really help. what else to do?

• i just need to talk to someone, so i texted aman.
  
• i surf and i found that poster that led me to a searching of anger management.
• now i'm reading a few tips.
  

so some of the Anger Management Tips:

• Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper. (not that easy..)
  

• Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets. (kalu kat ofis? have to do something MENTALLY exerting kah? ok i'm now surfing n blogging)
  

• Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga. (i always do this..tapi ade limit jugak kan..kalu dah beyond the limit?)
  

• Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person. (saya setuju..xleh pendam tau..baru kejap tdi saya sms aman..)
  

• Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues. (betul2..tapi kalu dah marah sempat ke nk pikir2 ayat? silence i better but it can kill..huhu)
  

• Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation. (huh..tanak tengok muka die skarang..)
  

• Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions. (ok..this is good)
  

• Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want. (this one pun bagus..)
  

• Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression. (i can't do this alone..! surfing can help maybe..)

it's easy to read..but can i apply this? hopefully..bila dah marah kan..

upDATING :)

a colleague told me; 'adani, ko tak lawa laa pakai tudung itam..'

and some then nodding

and me just laughing..

***

i can remember myself in tudung itam when i was in secondary school; for dinner, night preps, sport even, friday visit, etc. tudung putih was only worn with school uniform and other than that, tudung itam was always the only perfect match. but i then told myself not to put on any tudung itam right after i finished my secondary school. no and never. i sometimes opted to match tudung itam with any of my kurung during uni but i eventually found that my cheek looked weird chubby whenever i put it on. so i at once said no to that colour.

but i seem to turn back and looked for that colour again by end of last year when i worked as a teacher at my hometown. tudung itam happened to be my choice again since then. it wasn't really a choice anyway, it was just because i couldn't find any perfect match! myself just kept telling that black is no more suitable for me. believe it, i always wanted to stop wearing black but i just waited for time to tell the when.

and last two weeks, the time finally came. just by those simple words from a friend convincing myself that i have to totally forget tudung itam. but think twice, it would not be totally i guess. i may put it on for casual or home event, why not! but with some combination of colours. i may just avoid black next time.

anyway, trust me that i am not good at fashion. truly simple is always my tagline. i am simple and i look simple. but for future, i guess i have to be more careful in choosing colours. i used to take those meaning of colours easy but i think it's maybe good to give some attention to that. so, what's the meaning of black? some say it's a sign of unhappiness and sullenness (ye, di alam pekerjaan memang ada orang peduli and simply judging others by applying this). in an interview for example. so, anyone?

**black and i, what do you think?